MAKING JOKES ABOUT HOW “ITS WEIRD TO SEE ME OUT OF MY ROOM FOR ONCE” DOES NOT MAKE ME WANT TO LEAVE MY ROOM MORE IT MAKES ME WANT TO LOCK MY DOOR AND NEVER LEAVE AGAIN I DON’T KNOW WHY THAT’S SUCH A HARD CONCEPT
This also applies to “WOW SHE’S CLEANING!” and anything else like that do not fucking do that.
CAN I JUST ADD “LOOK AT THAT SHES SMILING” OR “WoW SHEs TALKING”
if you’re aware that many homosexual couples can procreate without problems and you know it clap your hands if you’re aware that being in a homosexual relationship doesn’t define your sexuality as homosexual and you know it clap your hands! if you’re sick of bi and trans erasure in the queer community and you really want to show it clap your hands
People with certain disabilities often have heavy disability accents. Their speech can sound very different from the way most nondisabled people speak.
People with disabilities that affect communication are often pushed into separate programs, particularly in adulthood. Even when they are in the same classes in the same schools, there isn’t much of an expectation that any peers listen to them. This was even more true a generation ago. As a result, most people without disabilities are lousy at understanding people with disability accents, and don’t understand that this is a glaring hole in their social skills.
Many unskilled people tend to maybe ask people with disability accents to repeat themselves once, and then they get frustrated and start ignoring them. Sometimes they pretend to understand, and smile and nod rather than actually listening. Sometimes they hang up on them. Sometimes they pass them off to another person, who also doesn’t bother to actually listen. Sometimes they hang up. If they are medical workers, sometimes they write on a chart that someone is impossible to understand or has no communication (particularly if that person also has an intellectual disability.)
Do not be this person. If you can’t understand someone with a disability accent, the problem is your skills, not their voice. (If you have a receptive language disability that prevents you from learning to understand accents, then it’s no one’s fault and you need an interpreter to communicate. Neither their voice nor your brain is wrong. In that situation, the skill you need to develop is finding an interpreter).
If you listen, and make it clear that you are listening, you will learn to understand, and you will be able to communicate successfully with more people.
An important phrase for this is “I’m having trouble understanding what you’re saying, but I care what you are saying.”
Make sure it’s true, and keep listening. The more you listen, the easier it will be to understand. Understanding . And practice. You get better with practice.
Too many people are ignored because others can’t be bothered to understand their accents. You can make this better by listening (and by insisting that people you supervise listen.)
lets talk about how dreamworks made a main character with a prosthetic limb. lets talk about how his best friend and his dads best friend also had fully functional prosthetics that weren’t made to look inconspicuous. let’s talk about how the females are all kick ass, but have the capacity to be human. let’s talk about how the only sexualized thing in how to train your dragon 2 was eret son of eret’s arms
Not that we’re incapable of goofing off or being lazy, but hear me out.
Watching TV and playing video games both put you into a mild trance-like state that makes you less aware of your surroundings. This has the side-effect of making you less aware of physical pain and discomfort. Because of this, a lot of people with chronic pain or chronic illness turn to TV and video games as a cheap and easy means of pain control, or otherwise distraction from unpleasant symptoms.
You should never make us feel ashamed for doing this, because then we often internalize it, and worse, stop doing it when we need to do it for fear of being criticized.
Also? Sometimes television is the only thing a person’s brain can handle doing when they’re really, really sick and weak. Too sick to read, too sick to play video games, too sick to use a computer, but still able to watch TV. This becomes essential to keep from getting bored out of our skulls. Especially when you’re the sort of person who only becomes bored when you’re sick.
You shouldn’t judge people for playing video games or watching TV anyway. But it’s particularly cruel to judge people who are doing it as a means of pain relief or otherwise dealing with symptoms of a chronic illness.
write a grantaire who knows he’s ugly but still walks around with a swagger. write a grantaire who bullshits about how much sex he gets. write a grantaire hanging out at opium dens. write a grantaire who experiemnts with absinthe. write a grantaire who is adventurous and outgoing. write a grantaire who reads and debates and thinks. write a grantaire who thinks for himself. write a grantaire who cares what enjolras thinks but won’t change himself for him. write a grantaire who is wild. write a grantaire who talks in great speeches waxing poetical about what he ate for breakfast. write a grantaire who falls in love with liberty, but is held back by opression. write a grantaire who has friends outside of les amis. write brick!grantaire.
lol people study for years, spend hundreds of hours in libraries and memorize an impressive amount of facts just to be capable of and allowed to make diagnoses but who the fuck would waste their time for that shit if you can be a teenage blogger with access to wikipedia.
"lol, people spend years experiencing symptoms of a mental illness, spend hundreds of hours looking at any legitimate information they can get as well as contacting people who have been officially diagnosed with what they think they have and comparing symptoms just to be able to make up for the fact that an official diagnosis is completely inaccessible for them, but why should I acknowledge any of that when I can make wild accusations that people diagnose themselves on a whim after 10 minutes looking at wikipedia?"
They don’t have a binary gender system, so when Carlos tells Cecil he’s nb, Cecil is like, “So where you come from, they think there are only two genders?? That’s dumb.”
And there so many different pronouns in Night Vale and no one bats an eye at a new set being introduced every once in a while.
And gendered clothing isn’t a thing, so Cecil wears dresses on hot days and everyone is socially allowed to go topless in public.
And because it’s really difficult to assign genital-based gender to newborns who may or may not resemble humans and may not even have genitalia, gender neutral pronouns are used until the child picks what pronouns they want to use.
And instead of a gender blank on official forms (like ‘gender: m/f), they have a pronouns blank where you just write your prefered pronouns. Some citizens prefer to paint abstract pictures of flying birds in this blank, but they always politely write how to pronounce them in case the reader doesn’t understand or have the organs necessary to speak the elder tongue.
Turns out that with so many genders, it’s really easy to misgender people, but they try their best and everyone’s really polite about corrections and asking for pronouns. Even Steve Carlsberg wouldn’t misgender someone on purpose.
bigoted feminism is feminism but it’s an extremely skewed and awful version of feminism that needs to be called out and critiqued and altered. there are huge problems within the feminist movement such as racism and transphobia and transmisogyny that need to be addressed, and writing off these sort of things as “not real feminism” ignores these issues and writes off the experiences of the affected people as unimportant
I don’t like hurting people. And direct insults tend to be perceived as hurtful whether the insult is ableist or not, so I’m exceedingly unlikely to say something like “tumblr user x is stupid!” I might call a piece of legislation stupid. I think I called a stabbing headache I had earlier today stupid.
If I know someone finds something hurtful, I’ll try not to do that thing around them. It’s common decency. Depending on what it is, I may or may not succeed at it.
And I really wish it was more common for people to say “please try not to say this in my presence, because it hurts me” than to manufacture false consensus and decide that any use of a given word ever is horribly oppressive and anyone who can’t stop using that word shouldn’t have a voice in a given community.
For example, I have really bad reactions to a lot of endearments. This is because I have a disability that makes me look years younger than my actual age. I also have an entirely different disability that means I have a hard time figuring out some really basic things. So people tend to patronize me, often while explicitly saying or implying that I should be with a Real Adult. I strongly prefer that people not refer to me as “dear,” “cutie,” “sweetie,” etc. because of this. I’ve had “stupid” used against me too, but it will never affect me as viscerally as “sweetie.”
But that doesn’t mean every use of endearments is ableist or oppressive. I can’t articulate clear-cut rules for which uses are. I understand that there are contexts in which this category of words is really important for a lot of people.
And… I wish that level of nuance, of “this hurts me, so don’t do it” was more accepted here. Without “and it’s a terrible thing to do in any context ever” having to be attached.
"Haha that Tumblr post said grades don’t define me so I’m gonna abandon my fantastic school marks and drop out" said literally no one ever
"Wow it’s nice to be reminded that even though school is hard for me, that doesn’t mean I’m worthless" said hundreds of thousands of bloggers with learning disabilities and mental and physical illnesses